"Gay Marriage"

This one will draw rocks, so let me preface it with a few notes.

• I have nothing against homosexual people of either sex - as long as they do not try to convince me that their way is right and mine is wrong.
• I have transgendered friends.  We don't talk about why or how - we just talk.
• I abhor the misuse of the word "gay".  I think that right now it has too many uses, rendering it meaningless.  I used to be sure I knew what it meant - now I have to think - a lot before reacting to it.

All that having been said, the issue of homosexual "marriage" is my hot button today.  With the foregoing in mind, I object to using words to mean too many things - because they end up meaning nothing.

I know what marriage is to me, my wife and our children.  I know that homosexual behavior is a biological dead end - they cannot reproduce wit assistance of those that they abjure - the "breeders" otherwise known as heterosexual (or, by some, Normal.)

I believe that parents matter - that is to say, parents as my generation understands them, one of each.  Sometimes we are not perfect; sometimes we are not even good - life is a huge crapshoot, and we don't always get what we want.  I don't believe that two mommies or two daddies can prepare a child for a world that largely consists of mommies and daddies and their kids - and I believe that suggestible kids are easy to convince that two mommies or two daddies is the normal circumstance and the kids will grow up inclined to homosexuality as a learned behavior.  I've seen it - I don't believe that it happens every time, but I know it does happen that way.

With the best of wills I can find no body of research suggesting that homosexuality has a genetic component. I do know that there is a body of research suggesting that family environment can help push a confused child in that direction.  That having been said, I recognize that there are many people who are homosexual who are also very valuable, functional people from whom everyone could learn much - and they are not mostly artists, musicians, etc, but are found in all professions, trades, walks of life, faiths - everywhere people are found. But, unlike the rest of us, they cannot make new people without outside help.

And therein lies the rub - they seek 'equality' and to some of them, equality means marriage, please do not ask me why.

I am told that love and commitment are found in heterosexual couples and in homosexual couples, which I can understand.  But there is more to marriage than that - and I do not mean the bearing and raising of children - there are heterosexual couple who cannot make children or will not make children - but that's not the same as not being equipped with the matching parts.

When I suggest a civil union statute (which is all a state-supplied marriage license gives anybody anyhow, for all of its being called a marriage license.) I am told that equal but separate isn't equal, what they want is sameness.  The only way it can be the same is if it is completely the same; partly the same is not identical, but different.  For a same-sex couple, the only way to make it really the same is for one to become a transgender person - then there will be matching parts (if artificially constructed.) Somehow I do not think that this will be well received, and anyhow among the transgendered folks I know (admittedly not many) the males who had married and had children and subsequently became 'female', they still want women for companions.  Does that mean that even though they have had a physical change that they are still male, or that in the process they have become homosexual?  I don't know, and really do not want to ask - I'm pretty old and don't dodge so well any more.

Perhaps I could get over the issue of calling it 'marriage' - but I can't get past 'it's not the same' - because it is not the same, and nothing will make it the same.

I am tired of being diminished, called names, and generally abused by the militant homosexuals because I will not agree to the idea of 'sameness' - because 'same' is another one of those words I see becoming meaningless - 'the same only different.'

That's what I think.  Notice I didn't say 'feel' - apparently the world nowadays is composed more of folks who 'feel' than folks who'think' - and in my opinion it is a great loss for the world.  Self-esteem has replaced self-respect - and the deterioration in many areas shows the consequences.

I'll discuss the current occupant in another rant.